Okay there is a new post Facebook post going viral. It is from Meghan Maza Oeser. Her letter to her husband before leaving for a girls weekend trip....it is the funniest, most truthful and real life letter I have read. If you get offended by bad words, the letter is not for you. The letter made me think about being a mom....
Mom's rock! Plain and simple. If your a mom, give yourself a pat on the back, raise your glass, give yourself a high five. I always like the question in an interview, "can you multi-task?" If you are a mom, you are an award-winning multi-tasking person. We are the kiss your owie, make you supper, get you drinks and snacks, help with homework, laundry fairy, housekeeper/maid, pack your lunch, get you to this practice and that practice, give you a bath, tuck you in to bed, referee, bake your treats for school, make sure you are clothed, super human being. This list can go on, but you get the point.
So picture this...Nic is working, I am home alone with all 3 kids. I am in the kitchen cooking supper, Kanon is bawling at my feet and pulling my shirt to the point I swear he is ripping it, Kenly is teasing Kaydee by taking her volleyball away from her, so they are both screaming and now Kaydee is bawling and coming to me to take care of it. So what do I do? I can tell you what I wanted to do. I wanted to scream and run off to my room....but I can't do that because I am the adult and I have to handle this situation. I pick up Kanon and calm him and then give him a container of snacks because the child wants to eat 24/7 to the point you would think he is starving. I then go in and take the volleyball away and turn on a TV show they both can agree on. Problem solved! I go back to fixing supper. This situation is a nightly routine in my house. I am sure most parents can relate. When school starts the situation will be: me fixing supper, Kanon crying at my feet, Kaydee crying because she doesn't understand her homework and needs help, Kenly yelling because she can't focus on homework because her sister and brother won't stop crying. I will survive...I always do.
How many of you want to pull your hair out when trying to leave to go somewhere?!?! After spending most the time telling your kids to get dress, brush your hair, brush your teeth you are already exhausted before you even leave. Once you finally get everyone standing in front of the door you do a quick check off list in your mind only to realize you forgot 2 or 3 things. You finally get out the door open to only have the fighting start about which girl gets to sit in the middle (which ends of being drama because Kanon will eventually poke their eye or pull their hair). After finally getting everyone in you realize you forgot a few more things and have to run back inside. Once you finally get to pull out the driveway you could use a nap! I know most of you are shaking your head agreeing.
Regarding her mealtime conversation....I really laughed at that. I dislike mealtime out of all the nightly to do items. This kid wants tacos while this one wants hamburger helper (and the kinds do matter, they have to be the certain kind of noodles.) One night Kaydee loves Cottage Cheese the next night she is so grossed out by it. That happens with tons of food, it's like overnight they suddenly decide they hate Mac & Cheese. Most nights the girls think they need a snack before supper. I always say no but somehow they accomplish getting something out of the kitchen and eating it. Then we sit down to eat and they are no longer hungry. Demanding them to eat....that does not work. You can guarantee 10 minutes after supper mess is cleaned up they are starved to death. Yes...you all are agreeing with this, aren't you? Oh and don't forget that the plate used MATTERS! Who knew that a plate could cause so much drama. Both girls are at the age they want to fix their own plates, awesome they want that independence but I also want to eat at some point. Also don't forget every time you sit down to eat, someone has to pee. It is just a given. You can even ask right before supper is ready and nope, nobody has to go. The minute that plate is fixed and on the table its like an alarm goes off. Ding Ding Ding...I have to pee! The girls wonder why the evenings go by so fast, maybe because we spend 45 minutes at the dinner table.
Bedtime...This part of her letter made me really laugh out loud. Our bedtime really isn't so bad anymore. For awhile the worst was Kanon took an early evening nap and then he would want to stay up till 11. Now we have him going to bed between 8:30-9. The girls go to bed at 8:30. If they don't fall asleep until 9 that is fine. They do make several trips downstairs to tell me something that amounts to nothing or to ask me to get them a drink (in which they have a glass by their bed and are perfectly capable of obtaining their own water.) Maybe I am selfish but I like to have an hour to myself before I go to bed. I haven't been able to sit down and just relax for I don't even know how long so I want that back! Nic and I are still 7 episodes behind on Grey's Anatomy from this spring! The new season will be starting and I would really like to be caught up before it starts! That is my goal!
With all that being said I love my kids more than anything. I can't imagine a day without them. They are the reason I get up everyday. Kenly is really helpful, yes sometimes she can help to much but it comes from the best place and she loves being the motherly sister. She is the best big sister! She is a people pleaser and she is really hard on herself and pushing herself to always do her best, which makes me proud She is growing up to be a beautiful young lady that will accomplish great things in her life. Kaydee...this one I don't even know where to start....she makes us laugh. I mean the full belly laugh, tears running down your face kind of laugh. She has so much life and energy...to much energy most the time. She does cry...a lot, but she is an emotional one. She has the personality that never meets a stranger and always makes friends. Kanon...this boy will be the one that causes my grey hair...oh wait...he already has. He has a smile that can melt your heart and make a room shine. He is goofy, ornery, funny and is always on the go and kind of a bulldozer. He is such a cuddle bug that loves to hug and give kisses. I can't wait to see his personality grow.
I am one blessed momma, living a crazy life with 3 kids. It definitely is not always perfect, sometimes really chaotic, sometimes I don't know what way I am going, I don't always know where all my kids are (just kidding I do, except for that one time they rode the scooter down Main Street to their cousins house...don't judge.) I know that someday I will blink and they will be going off to college, getting married and I will wonder where the time went. So I will enjoy this life I am living!
